All great architectural works need strong foundations to sustain themselves and to transcend time and space. Starting to build a castle, a pyramid or a skyscraper is not a simple task, but every moment counts and all the effort ends up being rewarded. The first years of living with your partner are precisely the foundations of a solid and harmonious relationship, and, therefore, it is possible that the first year presents challenges, contradictions, ups and downs and also great achievements for the couple.
Before continuing to read this article, I recommend that you do not anticipate or predispose yourself: each couple is different from the others and each one will experience particular situations. There are many couples living together before getting married and reach marriage with a previously established lifestyle. Just to mention a few possible cases, there are couples who have been together as friends for a long time before committing, couples who have not lived or gone on a trip together or couples who move out of home or who undertake new relationship problems after moving in together. So, in essence, relationships change after moving in together.
Moving in with your boyfriend
You’ve been dating for a while now and decided to take a bold step, “Moving in with boyfriend”. This is a great step you’re are taking in the relationship. Living with your boyfriend is not always roses and petals. There are things you should address before moving in with a boyfriend. Living with a boyfriend is different from visiting and dating. No one can tell you when to move with your boyfriend. It is due to a mutual decision that both partners make. You will know whеn the timе iѕ right. Yоu will bе compatible and рrераrеd fоr the nеw сhарtеr. If bоth раrtnеrѕ аrе finаnсiаllу рrераrеd, then it is thе right timе. Both can divide the accounts and support each other. Both partners must be emotionally prepared. It’s more than seeing someone you love every day. Can you tolerate your discomfort? Do уоu hаndlе thе fightѕ fairly and recover? If thе аnѕwеr is no, уоu аrе not рrераrеd to mоvе with someone. Thеrеfоrе you аrе nоt ready. Wаit until you have a ѕоlid fоundаtiоn.
How to adjust to living together!
How does it feel to move with your partner for the first time? What changes in you? How do you influence the other person to change? Living together in relationship is one of the last rituals of transition to adulthood; Saying “I love you” and getting drunk on a balcony while the sun goes down is nice but sharing the bathroom and the bills are real. Once you move in with your partner, you announce to the world that you are entering a phase of life where marriage, children and old age are things that could happen to you in the near future. ·
- Habits change
Your habits might change since you moved from your parents’ house to a new apartment. You’ll also observe personal habits change but you may still have an occasional defect, just like your partner, and as must say, we are human beings making mistakes is normal. For example, you may have a bad habit of throwing all the trash out of the kitchen in a single boat, while he likes to separate the organic and the inorganic. On the other hand, good habits are also contagious. You may love having tea at night and your boyfriend didn’t like it so much.
- You learn to enjoy time alone being together
Living with a person in the same house does not mean that they should be together all the time. Yes, you are a couple, but from time to time we need our space. He watches videos on his phone while you watch a movie on TV. You draw a little while he plays video games. From time to time we do different activities being in the same room and there is nothing wrong. It is good that everyone has their personal space and still enjoy the company of the couple even if they are not doing the same.
- Sometimes we improvise the plans
Times, we want to go out and plan something immediately. Without complications, schedules or anything – super easy! Money is not necessary to go out and have fun with your partner. Sometimes you may only walk to the park, ride a bike or the bazaar, even if you don’t buy something. It has nothing to do with the plans for the first dates and, I tell you a secret, it is much better!
Tips to be stronger emotionally in love
If you constantly ask yourself how to be emotionally strong, it is because surely you have gone through difficult situations in your love relationships where you have been quite emotionally impaired and feel unable to do something by not feeling that way when you meet again another person. There are a series of actions that we can take to finally feel freer and with greater general well-being, which will not only help us feel stronger emotionally in love but also other areas of our lives. Here are a series of tips, that if you put them into practice continuously, you will eventually notice greater emotional stability, which will make you feel stronger in love.
- Focus on the present
You mustn’t let your mind continue to wonder about the past or the future that has not yet arrived. If you focus on the present, you will be avoiding unnecessary suffering and worries, so you will get used to perceiving life in another way and learn to enjoy it more.
- Don’t pretend to stop feeling pain
Being emotionally strong does not mean that you will stop feeling pain in the face of difficult situations that occur in life. Pain is undeniable and is part of life as well as joy, so don’t confuse being strong with stop having feelings. The emotionally strong person also suffers and feels bad at certain times, but has the conviction that will get ahead of any kind of situation.
- Recognize your value as a person
Do not give more importance to another person than yourself. Recognize that you are a valuable person and focus on yourself and what is best for you. If you feel it is difficult for you to increase your self-esteem, remember that you can always turn to a professional to help you achieve it.
Learn to see love “failures” as opportunities Stop perceiving only negatively the failures you have in love. Remember that more than failures, they are valuable experiences that enrich your life because with each one of them you learn something else and you can grow and develop more as a person. So change your perspective, learn from each experience and enjoy it.
In conclusion, living together with a partner doesn’t mеаn уоu’rе suddenly a bоring соuрlе, but mоrе things уоu do together will bесоmе mundаnе. Sо you’ll nееd tо bе spontaneous tо keep thе spark аlivе, like going оn date nightѕ аnd dоing fun activities together.
Yes living together is a huge adjustment! It was great for us learning how to coexist together.
The younger you are, the easier it is to adjust that’s for sure!. I don’t really remember any issues, I just remember being thankful that the cost of my rent went down.