Making Mommy Friends

As parents, we’re quick to set up play dates and social interaction times for our children.  We recognize the importance of providing opportunities for our children to be among their peers; however, we often fail to do the same thing for ourselves.    This is especially true for moms who work outside the home — they sometimes feel guilty for any activity that’s not child-centered.  However, the wisdom, feedback and commiseration that can come from fellow moms is a critical tool for surviving the daily challenges of  parenting.

Here are a few tips for finding candidates for your “Mommy Network” from working mom Claire Haas, who also serves as Vice President, Education at Kiddie Academy.

  • Start by becoming a mom detective.  Develop a mental description of the type of person you’d like to hang out with, and be on the lookout for a mom who fits your criteria.  For example, perhaps you want a mom with a similar approach to discipline as your own.  By watching how other moms handle common parenting situations,  you’ll gather clues about the person.
  • Enroll in a “mommy and me” class. Whether you choose music, swimming, yoga or something else, chances are you’ll get an opportunity to connect with other mothers.
  • Join a community pool or recreation center.
  • Be a regular at your neighborhood’s playground.
  • Attend child-focused performances, such as theatre or dance.
  • Network at your childcare provider’s location.  Many have parents groups.
    Visit the children’s section of your public library or book store.

Once you identify a few potential buddies, you may wonder how to tell if you’ll be compatible.   Here are some clues that can help you to evaluate a possible mom friend:

  • Does she seem to be having fun at the playground/pool, etc.?
  • How does she interact with her child?
  • Check out how she dresses – does it match your own style?
  • What does she read or do while waiting for her child during sports practice?    By observing, you may find a mom who likes the same books, or a fellow knitter.

Once you’ve identified a potential pal, don’t be afraid to introduce yourself to her.  You already have a major thing in common, which is half the equation when making friends.

For more parenting tips and resources, visit Claire at the Kiddie Academy Family Essentials blog at:


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    Janet W. says:

    It’s so important to make mommy friends who have similar views on raising children as you. It will give you an outlet so you don’t feel stuck inside with no one to talk to!

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    courtney b says:

    going to your kids school really does help a lot :)

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    Daily Woman (Lacey) says:

    I have tried this but having too many close friends usually for me anyway causes more drama in my life then I can handle right now. After my son was diagnosed with autism we lost a few of our friends I don’t know why but after that I became very cautious of the people we call our friends.

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