While I don’t necessarily make New Year’s resolutions, I do like to set goals for myself, for things I’d like to work on in the coming year. (Be more assertive, be more confident of myself/care less about what people think, be a better listener, be more patient with my children, etc.)
To make your resolutions work for you:
Be positive – Instead of “I won’t…” make your resolution a positive statement: “I will…”
Set yourself up for success – Make your resolution realistic, and make yourself a plan with goals.
Make yourself accountable – Something as simple as making yourself a chart to record your successes, or setting reminders on your phone will help you remember why you wanted to change.
For example, instead of “I will lose 25 pounds,” “I will quit smoking,” “I will stop spending/start saving,” try setting goals such as replacing 1 snack per day with an apple, 1 soda with water, skipping your morning cigarette or doing 10 jumping jacks & drinking a glass of water every time you crave one, etc.
If you want to eat healthier or expand your family’s menu, why not set a goal of trying one new veggie per month and/or one new recipe per week. Rather than vowing to go to the gym 3x a week, make a goal to do extra activity once per day, such as taking the stairs instead of the escalator or parking at the back of the parking lot.
If you want to stop overextending yourself, plan to say “no” to one commitment a month, and spend that time on something you enjoy instead.
Want to make new friends, or overcome social anxiety? Set a goal like saying “hello” to one new person per week.
Instead of vowing to stop your daily Starbucks habit cold turkey, treat yourself once per week and enjoy it with no guilt. Set aside the money you would have spent so you can hold it in your hand and see what a difference it’s making. Before you know it, you could buy yourself a fancy espresso maker with the money!
Make sure you reward yourself in a way that doesn’t sabotage your goal (don’t reward saving with spending, healthy habits with food, etc.) Something as simple as giving yourself a manicure or buying the MP3 of a song you like is a great reward.
Do you make New Year’s Resolutions? Are you successful?