With the New Year upon us, many have taken the time to set some resolutions. But it is not just personal resolutions that we might consider, it is also a great time for our families to set resolutions. Resolutions are a fancy words for goals. Setting and striving to accomplish family goals are one of the best ways to bring our families closer together and strengthen our belief in our families abilities to accomplish tasks and do hard things.
One fun way to set family resolutions is by starting with a key word, or phrase that represents the focus you would like to have throughout the year. This could be as simple as “patience”, or as complicated as a quote about the subject you would like to work on. Post the key word or quote on the wall, or on the fridge where everyone will see it often, and remember how important it is.
Another approach is to sit down as a family. Give everyone a turn to point out something that your family is doing right. Build the family up. Then, give everyone a chance to point out something the family could do better, or something a family member would like to see changed. Take a vote together as a family, to determine which of the suggestions would work as family resolutions for the year.
A few things to remember when you and your family are setting resolutions….
- Be sure you point out strengths and positives, before you start pointing out the negatives.
- Set small goals and plan experiences to help accomplish the larger resolutions.
- Meet monthly to evaluate your progress and to be sure every one is still on the same page.
- Limit family resolutions to 2-3. Any more than that and family members will have a hard time staying focused.
- Understand that even though the family has the same resolution, modifications will still have to be made for each individual family member as a result of age and experience.
- Family resolutions, just like personal resolutions, take time. They are a process.
- Be realistic in your goals and expectations.
- Be loving to one another.