Dewey Howard, a “Love & Logic” expert and recovering “drill sergeant dad”, and his wife Angela, a recovering “helicopter mom”, have successfully raised 3 kids using the “Love and Logic” parenting method. He now shares his advice in his very popular classes and on our blog-azine.
Do you children ever argue with you? (Ok, so this is a silly question.) Of course they argue with you – a lot! More often than not, kids argue to avoid dealing with an unpleasant issue. They play “brain drain” with us to divert our attention from what we’d really rather be talking with them about.
Next time your child starts arguing with you, try using one of these one-liners:
- “I love you too much to argue.”
- “Thank you for sharing.”
- “Hmm, is that right?”
Just pick one and repeat it over and over while your child is trying to argue with you. (By the way, make sure you smile and use a calm voice as you do so.)
It won’t take long for your child to figure out he is not getting anywhere and give up. (And he may think Mom or Dad has finally lost it!) Give your child some “cooling off” time, then go back and deal with the issue you wanted to talk about later.