Marriage is the ultimate commitment, yet one of the hardest endeavors that many of us encounter in our lives.
I have been married, divorced and remarried. I have had my share of pain and tears, but ultimately through it all, God has seeded himself deeper into every aspect of my heart.
In Genesis, God created man in his own image….and then created a woman out of his own flesh, as there was no suitable partner for him.
Adam, in response to God’s presentation of the woman was so overwhelmed that he proclaimed:
“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh”
God made us to be united to another.
So, with this said, ask yourself this question,”How much time do I invest in my marriage on a daily, weekly, monthly or yearly basis to ENRICH its foundation?”
My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years now as we enter our late 30’s and have two very young children. We try to find time to take a marriage enrichment course at least once a year – whether we are struggling or are in perfect harmony. We are currently studying Sacred Marriage in our lifegroup and enrolled in a marriage enrichment course in another local church.
This question was recently posed to us, and although we attend these classes, we rarely take quality time to sit down, talk, discuss or even pray together. It is so easy to get caught up in life – the children – the day to day battles, that our marriages tend to get pushed to the back burner.
Marriage is a gift from God and one that we must constantly work on – in which we must be deliberate in our attempts to strengthen it. As a victim of divorce, I must say that it is much too common and subsequently far too easy to divorce in our nation. “Irreconcilable differences” is a statement that we have come to hear in our everyday lives.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” (1 Cor. 13:4-8a).
Love is at the root of any marriage, but after the initial flame begins to wither, we are called to do whatever it takes to keep the light burning bright.
So therefore, as society considers Valentine’s Day, I invoke a challenge to each of you that read this post. Plan time and BE DELIBERATE in one action each day, no matter how small. Spice up the redundancy of life and of the daily routine. It is so important, especially in today’s society, that we INVEST in our marriages.
Budget for a night out with ONLY your spouse AT LEAST twice a month and stick to it.
Jonathan and I have vowed to take each Monday night to ourselves. This does not mean that we are having a date night each week. It simply means that we have put on each of our personal calendars “Marriage Night.” Most importantly, we have come to the understanding that with this time, we must learn to protect it at all costs. Protecting your time means that nothing else can replace it. Don’t let TV, a dinner date with friends, a telephone call….anything….disrupt that set time together. It is THAT important!
So what does “Marriage Time” mean?
Simply…when the kids go to bed….the TV stays off and we do something together that involves conversation.
Here are some simple ideas that you may be able to do as well. Feel free, also, to comment on this post with additional ideas. Also, please take a moment to share this article with friends, family, Facebook, Twitter, etc.
* A Special Dinner
* Board Game
* Wine by the Fire
* Reading a book together that has some substance to it
* A bible study
Effort and creativity are crucial to make this work.
Enrich your marriage with things to strengthen it.
Talk together – Laugh together – Nurture one another.
Colossians 3:23 says, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart” – This includes your marriage as well.
Take this to heart! The last thing you want is the kids to move away when they are older and you have no idea who you are married to.
I hope this sheds light and inspires you to take this step as well.
HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!!!