I am learning to be more honest with myself. This means that I have to take a hard look at my life, actions and attitudes and realize that I struggle. I struggle with selfishness, pride, laziness and self-dislike, to name a few. In the next two to three posts, I am going to talk about one of my struggles: laziness or lack of stewardship. Stewardship is a responsibility that we all need to cultivate in our lives. Some of us are able to be good stewards more easily than others, but for those of us who need help with stewardship (me included), I hope my posts will be encouraging and helpful.
Webster defines stewardship as the conducting, supervising or managing of something; especially the careful and responsible management of something entrusted into one’s care. My goal as a steward is to be responsible with money, time and any other resources God has entrusted to me. The biggest goal of my stewardship is to be responsible with my sons. I want to “manage” and “conduct” them so that they will have fulfilling and abundant lives. There is a proverb from the Bible I try to keep in the forefront of my mind every day, and I want to recite that here:
“Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?
She is more precious than rubies.
Her husband can trust her and she will greatly enrich his life.
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
She gets up before dawn and prepares breakfast for her household.
And prepares the days work for her servant girls.
She is energetic and strong, a hard worker.
She makes sure her dealings are profitable.
She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy.
She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future.
When she speaks, her words are wise and she gives instruction with kindness.
She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing with laziness.
Her children stand and bless her,
Her husband praises her: ‘There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,
But you surpass them all.’
Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting,
But a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised”
Proverbs 31: 10-30 (I shortened it a bit)
When I think of this noble woman, I feel convicted to be this woman. Why would I not do all these things for my family, the people I love most? It is my own selfishness that holds me back. I have a daily struggle with myself to fight my natural laziness and instead be the wife and mother my family needs me to be. The “noble woman” in me does not always win. But, when I wake up each morning, I pray I can bring my family good and not harm, I am energetic and strong, and that I work hard and help the poor. I pray I will not suffer laziness.
So let’s be practical. For those of us who struggle with lazy tendencies, how can we be this “noble woman”?
- First off, pray the prayer I mentioned above.
- Surround yourself with people who are virtuous women. It is counter-productive to hang around lazy people if you are trying to overcome laziness. Be around the type of woman that you want to be.
- Post a reminder of your goals all over your home, car and work. Put a reminder on your phone. (It could even have a little alarm that will sound!)
- If you struggle with time-wasters (I.e, internet, tv, facebook, reading for pleasure), get them out of your house until you have your struggle under control. (Now don’t get me wrong, I do not think any of these things are bad, but they can be a temptation and hindrance if you struggle with spending too much time on these things.)
- Lastly, plan time for yourself: for meditation, prayer and physical exercise.
If you struggle with lack of stewardship like me, I hope this post is encouraging and helpful to you. If you have stewardship down, I ask that you encourage friends and others who struggle. We all need encouragement to be the best Christians, citizens, wives and mothers.